Saturday 16 January 2016

Unrealistic expectations


Chilly isn't it. Unless of course you're somewhere divinely sunny and warm and many miles from here. I'm not complaining, winter is supposed to be cold, although it has been a bit of a shock after weeks of balmy temperatures. I saw a bank of primroses blooming today.

The biggest boy was in a cross country race over towards Bath this morning, so after we'd cheered him on we all went for a wander. It seemed a shame to drive all that way and not visit. If the photos look familiar it's because I took some similar ones not that long ago, last time we were there. But honestly, it's impossible not to snap away in Bath, there are gorgeous little details round every corner.

I have to say it's nice to be home though. I've got the heating on, which is a bit of a luxury, we try not to use it too much, and I'm wondering if I can avoid going out tomorrow. There will be the obligatory football in the morning, but maybe I can stay in in the afternoon. The middle boy is a bit under the weather, so I might get away with it. We shall see. I have a pile of books that is getting bigger every week and a hundred and one other things to be getting on with, it might be nice just for once to stay in.

I always like to see cosy fireside pictures on people's blogs, but somehow it never seems to happen around here. I am still on that eternal quest to find more time. I added three books to the reading pile today, honestly, my expectations are wildly unrealistic. Unless of course I win a billion pounds in one of these lotteries I keep reading about, and then I'll be all set. Any wildly unrealistic expectations or ideas with you? Please tell me I'm not the only one.

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  1. By chance I was looking at my bookshelves today when I was putting away my latest finished book. I reckon that it will take me at least a decade to read all of the books I have waiting if I continue at the current rate and don't ever buy any more. That is a pretty unrealistic expectation all round! Hope that you get to stay in tomorrow and keep warm and cosy and enjoy some reading time! xx

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  2. I also have an unrealistic reading pile. Along with all my other unrealistic goals! Tomorrows unrealistic goal is for there to be no arguing. It's the smallest person's birthday and there's been snow!!! Unlikely then! Have a fab week (Bath is just beautiful!) xx

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  3. I love Bath. My daughter and I still talk fondly about the two little breaks we took staying in a B&B on Henrietta Street. Hope you can stay in tomorrow afternoon - with the heating on. I used to treat heating as a luxury and we'd all wear lots of jumpers and warm joggers and socks and slippers and dance around to keep warm but it's not good to be too cold. We had the heating working in the cottage today and it was so lovely. I'm reading Claire Tomalin's biography of Samuel Pepys - she is such a good biographer - and I'm alternating it with War and Peace and trying to keep ahead of the TV serialisation, which is nowhere near as good as the novel. I do like a book I can get my teeth into.

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  4. We never manage to do everything planned. If we did we would be bored.

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  5. When it comes to reading, my expectations are always wildly unrealistic. I could never leave a library without a giant tower that I'd never get through in the obligatory two weeks. (un)Happily, our teensy local library only has about six books that appeal to me so I have to wait for inter-library loans and that slows the pile down.

    I would really, really, really LOVE a day where I didn't have to leave the house. I'm desperate for such a day, actually. It's definitely unrealistic to expect it though.

    I vaguely remember the days before children where I would spend entire afternoon, prostrate on the sofa, reading......*sigh* xo

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  6. Dreaming and doing are definitely at war in my life...I have numerous books with bookmarks in them...or shelved before being read, but I would rather have high aspirations and not meet them all than be aimless or breathless! xx

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  7. Bath is a beautiful place. Lovely photos. My struggle is reading books. I pick up a few with intentions to "get away" and read and it doesn't happen anywhere near as often as I'd like it to....oh, and exercising. haha :)

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  8. I've been reading book after book lately.. on my iPad. I just finished such a good one that I went in to the iBookstore and purchased the whole series! I'll be set for weeks. The book is "Into the Wilderness" by Sara Donati. Anyway.. don't worry about stuff.. you can only do what you can do and it does not pay to worry about things. You're great the way you are. ((hugs)), Teresa :-)

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  9. I love your Bath photos, who could ever tire of Bath? I have about 6 books begging to be read...I very rarely get to the bottom of the pile, so you are not alone!

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  10. I love your photos of Bath, a beautiful city and one I really must visit again soon, it has been too long. I wholeheartedly agree with your book issue, I have so many lined up on my Kindle that it will take me ages to get through them but I still keep buying more, I just cannot resist. I think it is a good problem to have though, in my view you just cannot have too many books! xx

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  11. I think we all have unrealistic expectations I'm pretty sure that's what keeps us all going. Mine is having an organised craft space - its nice to day dream! I hope you get your day in & your cosy fireside space time one day xx

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  12. Ah yes, I have a smallish pile of books waiting to be read and a very large pile of unfinished crochet projects. Occasionally I finish something, which is immensely satisying and I cant' think why I don't do it more often :o) Your photos of Bath are lovely, such a fascinating place. Have a lovely week xx

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  13. It's hard not to take photos of Bath isn't it, it's just beautiful. I had a sort out of books about 4 years ago and made a pile of books to get rid of, but stupidly decided I needed to read them first, hence, as you might imagine I get rid of about a measly 10 a year! That pile will take me about 10 years at this rate! I wonder if football is off with you after all, our games are off due to the snow. Hope you get your cosy day in my the fireside!
    Caz xx

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  14. I think everyone has unrealistic expectations/goals particularly this time of year, but if we didn't it would be a very boring life. Here's hoping you get the roaring fire and your feet up with a book today...

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  15. Ditto above. Unrealistic expectations are what drives me forward. Sometimes, though, I cut myself a bit of slack and go with the flow. Piles of books - yes. Photos of Bath - beautiful and always lovely to see. Hope you get some reading time. Sam x

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  16. definitely a staying in day today. brrrrrr chilly, hope you get chance to read some of your book x

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  17. Thank you for the great pictures of Bath. I have just finished Persuasion so your post complements that well..I hope you get your afternoon in. Sadly a household of boys means little time to yourself. Here's hoping..keep warm. Barbara X

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  18. Hey CJ,
    I remember cross country running. We were forced to run a route across The Downs in our gym skirts and hockey boots. I probably have unrealistic expectations about most things in my life. I probably always will. Although I accept that I'll never get to the bottom of the reading pile. There are eleven books teetering by my bed at the moment.
    Leanne xx

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  19. I picked up a book yesterday that had been on my reading pile for about six years. My Mum gave it to me as a Christmas present once and I'd never got round to it. I'd always felt vaguely bad that I hadn't, and I've got a resolution at the moment to try and read all the books I already own before getting any news ones. So I took the book up to the bath with me and thought I'd start it. I read the front which described it as a "harrowing tale" then read the back, which said something along the lines of, "from adored daughter to abused foster child to crack addict" and realised I had absolutely no wish to ever read the book, ever, even though my Mum had given it to me and it's now sitting in the charity shop pile. I feel a little bit Marie Kondo and a like a teeny weeny little weight lifted off my shoulders, ha ha.

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  20. Last year I converted all my magazine subscriptions to digital because the accumulating unread piles of paper were depressing me. Plus I thought it would make them easier to read, for travelling etc. when I wouldn't have so much to carry around. And what has happened? Well the paper has gone. But now I just have all these numbers flashing up on the screen. Unread issues. And the numbers keep going up..

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  21. Love your photos of beautiful Bath. I think a household with 3 boys probably means life is very busy. I remember how it was when our girls were small. Life gets less frantic when they are older. On the other hand, expectations and plans ( even unrealistic ones) are probably what keeps us going.x

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  22. Good pictures. There was a light covering of snow here this morning.
    I think that it's good to have a pile of unread books at this time of year.
    No, you're definitely not the only one! Have a good week. Flighty xx

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  23. Better to have unrealistic expectations than no plans or aims or things to dream about. Keep adding to that book pile!

    Beautiful photos of Bath, I don't think you can share too many photos of it to be honest. Xx

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  24. Time has an unbelievably way of slipping by doesn't it, lovely photos, we loved our trip to Bath last year :) xxx

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  25. I have a pile of books too, but I am managing to read a page here and there in the evening in front of the fire after the kids have had supper and before M is home. I do love Bath. My aunt and uncle have just moved there so I have more excuses to visit now :o) Hope you managed to stay in this afternoon and that your middlest one is OK xx

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  26. Big pile of books in the To Be Read department here too. At least I have stopped bringing more home from the library to add to the pile only to be taken back unread three weeks later. I frequently have unrealistic expectations as to what I can get done but try and focus on what I have done rather than what I haven't. Doesn't always work! I hope you got the quiet afternoon you craved. Lovely photos of Bath. Have a super week ahead, CJ. xx

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  27. Staying inside where it is warm and cozy always sounds perfect to me.
    Hugs,
    MEredith

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  28. I thrive on wildly unrealistic ideas and expectations..... not really but I am always reaching for the stars, often times feeling frustrated because my arms are so short (typing with frozen fingers, working from home with heating on minimum...) Have a lovely week. Cx

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  29. I just realised that I haven't been to Bath since I was in primary school. Time to schedule a trip. Actually, that is probably an unrealistic idea right there. Back to work!

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  30. Bath is so photogenic isn't it? I love it. Hope you managed to have a quiet, stay at home day yesterday and that your middle boy is now better. I have huge 'to read' piles too. Unfortunately, I only really read in bed and tend to fall asleep after a few pages! Have a great week. xx

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  31. Enjoy your new books. That's one of the best feelings in the world, to me, having new library books. I think my most unrealistic expectations have to do with household projects. I have grand ideas but somehow they never quite come to fruition. I think I'm allergic to dust and sweat. :)

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  32. Oh I love these photos! I have always wanted to visit Bath, probably too much Jane Austen. Anyhow, after these photos I'll have to make some time this upcoming weekend for a Persuasion viewing. hehe.

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  33. Always full of unrealistic expectations here too, and generally its regarding how much I can (or can't) get done in X amount of time.

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  34. Hi CJ,
    I think we are all very good at 'unrealistic expectations' and I don't think there is one answer on how to curb it. Perhaps there ought to be a support group? :-)
    It's tough when you have young children to raise too, but I managed to learn a few tricks to make things easier. Some I put into practice regularly, such as internet grocery shopping which gave me so much more time and saved me lots of money. Not to mention, not having to drag the children out in all weathers!
    Oddly, adding exercise to my already busy schedule actually made me feel better, even though it was another thing on my list. The feel good factor afterwards, is definitely worth the effort to go and do it in the first place. Not to mention the fact that you are doing something for yourself too.

    Delegating stuff to the children from a young age also helped make life much easier. Stuff like getting them to rinse their own cereal bowls and put them in the dishwasher, to pulling the sheets and pillowcases off their bed, and wresting covers off duvets gave them a sense of 'it's normal, and necessary to do this stuff' and helped me too.
    As for that reading pile - I haven't mastered that one. I switched to a Kindle five years ago, wrongly assuming that would solve the issue. It just pushes it to somewhere different.
    Love your pictures of Bath, I hope to visit this year as I haven't been for twenty five years.
    Have a good week.

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  35. I'm glad we're getting some cold weather. It's supposed to be cold and it's a nice change from the rain. I've only been to Bath once but really enjoyed the day.

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